Let me start by thanking and congratulating you for “worrying” about a divorce. Many spouses await a divorce eagerly, because they are not ready for the responsibilities, the commitment and the sacrifices a marriage demands. So, if you want to save your marriage, I sincerely want to congratulate you for this. Only if more people were like you and didn’t accept a divorce eagerly and strived to protect their marriage. In that case we wouldn’t have the horrible 87% failure rate among marriages, and would be a more unified and dignified community.If you are worried that your marriage could be, or is openly, heading for a divorce, the foremost thing you need to do is to consider getting some outside advice. This is what you are doing right now by reading this article, so it’s a good sign. I am saying you should get outside advice, because when a spouse wants to save a marriage he or she panics and does all the wrong, desperate things. Here are a few tips that helped me save my marriage personally:1. Do not apologize: If your spouse wants a divorce for some reason, that reason is probably something fundamental that has been present for a long time. It’s not realistic for you to have understood what that problem is at the moment your spouse has talked about divorce. Your spouse will think that you haven’t really understood the problem, or even if you have, you couldn’t have changed that easily. Apologizing in this state will ruin your credibility.2. Do not beg. This is again, very crucial! Begging and looking needy will make you look pathetic. If you want to save your marriage, you need to shed those traits of weakness, and look strong. Nobody wants a pathetic spouse – moreover, people don’t want what they can have easily – whenever you beg, you are automatically saying “I am very easy to have for you!”, which works against you.