So you’ve just gone through a disastrous and catastrophic event, but don’t give up, you can still save your marriage. There are times when the stress that results from these trying times can feel too difficult to overcome. With proper guidance, you can sail through these stormy waters and save your marriage from disaster.It’s common to feel as if things are falling apart right now as the two of you struggle to deal with what has happened. Some of the hardest examples are the death of a loved one, a terrible accident, or a frightening illness to one of you. You feel like you entire world is crumbling, desperation rears its ugly head.To protect yourself from the onslaught of emotions and drama that is sure to unfold, you must first understand that people react differently to events depending on their personal history. Most generally, men and women will react differently, some will repress feelings while others are more outward and expressive. Understanding that your partner may have different reactions than you will go a long way in seeing how to save a marriage. Never expect someone to react the exact same way that you do.A second thing to know is that when terrible things happen they can bring out the worst personality traits in people. For this reason it’s important to have patience. Patience not only with your spouse, but with yourself, too. If you can understand harmful behaviors as they happen it will allow you not to overreact.It should be stated that these difficult situations nearly always merit a consideration of marriage counseling. Reading articles and ebooks are a terrific first step in the right direction, but face-to-face counseling cannot be ignored.Let’s close out this article by running through a few extra pointers.- Commit to each other early on that you will get through these difficult times together. Support one and other through your valleys and peaks.- Depend on a support team; use friends and family as a crutch that will help you. Find other people who have gone through similar situations, they will be a great source of hope and inspiration.- Find distraction through movies, TV; anything that makes you feel good. Laughter is a terrific ‘medicine.’- Read, read, and read some more. For this particular situation I recommend a book by Travis Sago, ‘The Magic of Making Up’. I suggest you read my review and see if it’s right for you.Immense suffering doesn’t need to end a marriage. It can be made stronger after surviving these hard times together.