“How Do I Save My Marriage?” This was the only sentence roaming in my mind some time ago. My marriage was definitely ending – there is no question about that. It feels bad enough to be in a troubled marriage, but when you are the side that wants to save the marriage, it feels even worse.My spouse wasn’t paying any attention to me at all now – and I went desperate by asking “how do I save my marriage” over and over to myself, and trying to think of ways. The things I thought of to stop my divorce were worthless – they were laughable. Anyone looking from outside would know they would do absolutely nothing on how to save my marriage, but worse they would push my spouse even further away from me.Yet, I was devastated, I was desperate and I was acting only according to my instincts. And my instincts told me: ”You love your spouse! You cannot leave him go! Beg him, cry to him, do something!”I did that – exactly. I begged for him not to go away. I cried openly in front of him so that he would see how much I loved him, and how much I wanted to save our troubled marriage. Now – was it possible at all that by begging I was going to go anywhere on getting my spouse back to me? It wasn’t. Yet, I couldn’t think of that at that moment.But then another moment came and I realized that the things I thought myself were absolutely worthless – and began seeking outside advice. This is when the tables turned and I not only saved my marriage, but made it better than it had ever been.Looking for outside advice – like you are doing now, is the best answer to the question “how do I save my marriage”. Never answer this question yourself – the answer will be worthless.