If you you’ve found yourself in a situation where your marriage is on a roller coaster ride then you need to understand what the underlying causes of the situation are. Sure we all want that perfect fairytale where we meet the person of our dreams and then live happily ever after. At least it feel that way on the wedding day. Unfortunately, the honeymoon ends sooner than expected, and the trials of life begin to take there toll. Below I have outlined the top ways and reason that marriages fail and what step you should take in order to save it.10. Pay Attention to Detail – Taking care of the little thing that make your partner happy. Whether its rubbing the back after a long day or washing the car, or cleaning the kitchen.9. Getting Upset over Small Items – It’s truly amazing at how we have become so obsessed over small mistakes and items that are not significant. Don’t belittle your partner, they are on your side and working as a team is part of the union of marriage.8. Not Spending Enough Time Together – If going out with the friends is your main priority, then you should reconsider that behavior. Either figure out a way to include your spouse or plan on doing it seldom. Being married means doing things as a couple.7. Always Picking and Commenting About One Thing or Another – This grates on a person after a while. It’s funny because if you don’t like the way something is, then why not either do it yourself, or save comments to yourself. Why pick at another person.6. Keeping Yourself in Shape and Looking Attractive – A good number of people tend to think that once your married that staying attractive and in shape is optional. This is not true. Keeping yourself looking good for your partner will give them more reason to want to spend more time with you and be proud of who they are with.5. Pretending that You Don’t Have Responsibility To The Situation – Acting is if the only person at fault in your relationship is the other partner. “They did this”, or “They said that” is playing like you are a victim and have not been apart of a failing relationship. You have to take some responsibility.4. Going Overboard During Disagreements – One essential aspect of managing disagreements / arguments is avoiding getting personal. Demeaning some else just to prove you point is very counter productive and accomplishes nothing, other than just trying to hurt the other person. This type of behavior is very destructive to the foundation of a relationship. Don’t do it ever.3. Confiding in Your Partner Only – As a couple you share everything. If you have conversations that include thoughts about others including friends and or family members you need to keep that information to yourselves. Sharing things that are between the two of you are for your ears only. Don’t drag family members into your business.2. Making Purchase Decisions Alone – In today’s environment of scaling back and watching the dollars that come through the household, spending money on extravagant items without consulting your partner can put a lot of strain on a relationship. Set a maximum amount of what you can spend before having to talk about it together, and this will solve this problem.1. Lack of Intimacy – Not spending time in the bedroom with your spouse is a sure sign that there is serious problem. If you are not able to make love with each other in a passionate way, then there are underlying problems that need to be addressed soon or this will ultimately push the two of you into splitting up. Remember no sex = no marriage, for most, it’s really that simple.It’s a challenging task to take on when you are feeling depressed about your situation to try and implement or act on some of the items mentioned above. The time to act is now however, before the situation becomes unmanageable, and you are left with little options on the choices you will be able to make.