Are you asking the question, “can I save my marriage?” The only person who can answer this question is yourself. If you still love your spouse and if you are very much willing to exert the necessary effort to save your marriage then YES, you can definitely save your marriage. The most important thing is love which is the only reason why you should be thinking of getting back with your ex. If love is not the reason, then maybe you should just forget about reconciling with your spouse. Love is the force that put the two of you together so love is also the force that will reunite you if either of your strayed from the other. First of all, analyze your relationship. What are the events and circumstances that have led to the current state of your marriage? When did the problems start showing up? It is advisable though to avoid playing the blame game. That would be very unhealthy at this point. It is not important anymore who committed what to whom. After all, it takes two people for a relationship to work. And a failed relationship is the fault of two people and not just one. So the real question to ask is not can I save my marriage but can we save out marriage. And if both of you still has feelings for each other then YES is the resounding answer. Having love is not enough of course. There is work to be done and both of you should be up to the task. What is needed from both of you is a commitment. You should both commit to spending more time together however busy your schedules are. Without quality time, you will never be able to work your difference out. Some couples think that as their relationship progress the need to spend time with each other diminishes. This is not true. On the contrary, couples should increase the time that they spend together as their relationship advances in years. This is the only way to be sure that their togetherness will remain intact. People asking can I save my marriage will find that answer to that question inside their hearts. They will never find the question somewhere else and with other people. The answer may not be easy but if you love your spouse then you will be willing to make sacrifices and compromises.