Deciding who and when to marry is one of the most life altering decisions you will ever make. Getting married is so much more than a change of status on Facebook.There are some important questions to ask yourself and each other before to make this commitment. There are some deal breakers that are worth identifying before you begin.Finances: What are you each bringing to the marriage? How much debt? What are your assets? What are your spending habits?Sex: Have you talked about attitudes toward sex, beliefs about sex, desired frequency, preferences, expectations and fantasies? What are your thoughts on masturbation, pornography etc.?Chores: Who is going to do them? How will you fairly accomplish what needs to be done? How important is a clean house to you?Children: Do you want children? If so, how many and how soon? How do you plan to parent?Relaxation: What do you like to do for fun? How will you have fun together?Drugs: How much and how often do you drink? Do you use illegal substances?Fighting: Do either of you have violent tempers? Have you ever hit someone? Have you ever been abused? Is it ever okay or necessary to hit your partner?Fidelity: How do you plan to remain faithful to each other? What is inappropriate behavior with someone of the opposite sex?In-laws: How healthy are your boundaries? How involved will the in-laws be in your lives? How do you feel around and about each others families and friends?Work ethic: What is your attitude toward work? Where do you fall on the scale between workaholic and lazy bum?Future: What do you think you will be doing in 30 + years.If you cannot or will not talk about any of the above issues, consider that changing your Facebook status to married may end up being temporary. You may find yourself a few years down the road changing your status back to single.