I know it feels utterly heartbreaking to be in an ending marriage – because I have lived it.I wanted to do something to help my marriage for some time, because I had noticed that my spouse wasn’t paying enough attention to me any longer. Even though I had seen it coming, when my husband made it clear to me that he wanted a divorce, it was still devastating. What could I do to help save my marriage?Desperate to save my marriage, I tried to think of ways that would help my marriage. But I was so devastated by everything that was happening that I wasn’t able to really think much and all I could think of was to apologize for everything and beg my husband. Which are all dangerous things to do that not only won’t do anything as help for marriage; but will hurt it even further. But I couldn’t help it, because I was so desperate and I thought “I have to DO something! I can’t sit and wait!”Yes, it is correct to feel that you have to take action to help save a marriage; but that action must be something CORRECT! But the problem is that, in that desperate state of mind, it’s impossible to think correctly.So this is why I’m telling you that the foremost thing that will help a marriage is that you quit being desperate and calm down.I have stopped a divorce from happening and so can you – but you must first calm down. This will give both of you some very valuable time to process everything, and it will enable you to a wider perspective from which you can see the fundamental problems and ways of fixing it. This is what helped my marriage a lot!