When a marriage is failing, as a last resort couples turn to counseling. Just like a sickness, the best thing is seek professional help before it goes too far. In the end what determines whether or not it works, is ultimately up to the spouses, and whether or not they take the advice of the professional.I saw a professional as quickly as possible when I and Allen decided to split up. I asked myself over and over again if counseling could help my marriage. I utilized the professional advice, and followed it with open arms. I was able to convince Allen that counseling was for both of us. In our sessions it was suggested I be more open minded and to concede to some of his ideas, it was suggested Allen be more intimate. Another suggestion was that Allen relay his favorite things about me. We took the advice given to us, and our marriage got better because of it. Although, no sooner had we started doing better, we let ourselves fall back into the same old routine again. This again caused much turmoil in our marriage. Once I let myself see that is was happening again, I started applying it in our marriage again. Things were smooth once again.Can Professional Help really work for me: Marriage Counselors are not magic, the can only give us advice. It is ultimately up to us to make things work. Most professionals agree that if one spouse is already giving up on the relationship it is very hard to make it work. Professional help can only be victorious if couples listen and utilize the advice given to them. The professional is just that, a professional, who is trained in this field. Their advice should be taken with an open mind. Even though it takes both spouses to make the relationship work, initiative is the key to getting things started. After counseling sessions, it is the responsibility of both spouses to keep themselves on track with what they were told in counseling. Professional Counselors have been trained thoroughly to do their jobs, and by using techniques taught by generations before them. Counselors can cater to the specific needs of each individual situation.Can professional counseling really work: It is best to find a counselor who has a good reputation and has had positive turn around with their clients. The diplomas and degrees are not what make them a good counselor; it is the talent to understand each situation as it is different and as it is alike. One counselor I visited said to let Allen know that if he fights with me anymore then I would call the police on him, but I realized that this is no way to keep a marriage together. Happiness is from the heart, and love is the only thing that should keep a man and woman together in wedlock. With love not present in the household it sends the wrong message to the children involved. Needless to say I am not going to that counselor anymore; I had to find us one that would do the job the right way.Do your homework when seeking professional counseling: There are many ways to research marriage on the internet. Professional Counseling is only a guide to try and help keep your married life in control. Be sure to research any counselor that you are thinking of seeing, No counselor will do well in every situation, so you must do your homework.