Last night I saw the delightful movie, ‘Julie and Julia.’ It was an inspirational film, based on two women who followed their passions and lived out dreams beyond their expectations.But that is not what compelled me to write on this sunny Saturday morning. No. It was Julia Child’s marriage to her husband Paul, that so intrigued me.They had the warmest, most loving, relationship. They really had the ‘secret’ to an intimate marriage. In fact, I was so impressed, I encouraged my 19 year old daughter to see the movie, if for no other reason than to observe the relationship between Julia Child and her husband.So what made their marriage so unique? What did they know that we don’t?They lovingly encouraged each other, privately and publicly, and often with a good dose of humor. They also believed the best of the other, and that set in motion a relationship so sweet, so tender that they were each a far better person for it. And their marriage was one we all dream of.Examples of Encouragement in Julia Child’s Intimate Marriage:1) Julia and husband Paul are having dinner in a restaurant (where they live in Paris) and she’s trying to decide what to do with her days. First she considers learning to make hats. You can see Paul doesn’t think it’s the best idea but rather than put her down, he asks, “What do you really like to do?” She responds, “Eat” and he leans in “And you’re so good at it!” to which she agrees and they both start laughing hysterically.2) They are having a Valentine dinner with friends and Julia is telling about when she and Paul met, she was only a file clerk but “Paul designed all the secret war rooms. Why, he single-handedly won the war.” After Paul heartily agrees, he raises his glass of wine to her, “Julia, you are the butter to my bread and the breath to my life. I love you.”3) After eight years of working on her cookbook, Julia Child receives a final rejection letter from the publisher. Of course she is devastated and Paul snuggles with her and comforts her, “Your book is a masterpiece. It will change the world.” .And of course it does go on to change the world of cooking.What would happen in our relationship, if we chose to encourage our spouse? Believe the best in them? It’s a decision we can make today. Never mind if we don’t feel that they are encouraging us. It has to start somewhere and since we know that the only person we can change is ourselves; the action has to be on our part. We have to make the decision.Go see the movie. or not! But put a little ‘love and encouragement’ into your loved one and see your relationship grow and improve to a new level of intimacy. By the way: Don’t limit encouragement to your spouse. Watch all your relationships grow by encouraging your children, co-workers, friends, parents.