In some countries, polygamy is allowed and men can have up to four wives at one time. The question is, should polygamy be practiced, or are men better off with having only one wife?From a scientific perspective, humans are polygamous in nature, just like the lions in the wilds. Just like animals, humans have to ensure the survival of their species. Thus, it is logical for men to practice polygamy to maintain the human population, and also to continue to breed.From an historical point of view though, our forefathers do practice polygamy. However, with the passing of time, humans found that they could breed just as well with the practice of monogamy. Furthermore, with the rise of human activists, women have achieved the same social standing as men, a feat only accomplish in the past few decades.As such, polygamy has been declared illegal in most of the countries in the world. Gone are the days when women only stay at home with their dishes.Though it is illegal to practice polygamy, the very nature of men defies whatever laws which have been enacted to bind their polygamous urge. Men are known to two-time their partners, and this number tends to increase at times. Has our law played its part to uphold the spirit of gender equality, or does it simply turn a blind eye in the wake of raging hormones?This topic is still up for debate, though polygamy may very well never see the daylight again.
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When you are married, you would certainly like to enjoy your time with your husband. But how can you enjoy when he is sad? When your husband is not happy, you can easily also cross the boundary and become negative. Your life will be closely intertwined with your husband’s, and his sadness will make you wonder where you are messing things up.It is necessary for you to find ways of how to make your husband happy once more. This means that you will need to understand what makes him unhappy in the first place. Here are important tips that will help you to remove the sadness from your husband.Have quality time togetherMarriage comes with a lot of responsibilities that can leave you with hardly any time together. You may have to take care of children. Then career also has to be considered. In the process, you may find yourselves gradually turning into strangers who happen to share the same space.As you take care of your other responsibilities, your husband will feel that you neglect him. That is why sometimes husbands feel some jealousy towards their own children. This does not mean that your husband does not like his own kids. What he misses is your company.You should therefore make your schedule such that you have some quality time alone, preferably every week. Leave your kids with either family members or friends to strengthen the bond between you.Be happy yourselfHappiness begets happiness. If you would like to make your husband happy, you should make yourself happy first of all. In case you find that you have too many responsibilities to carry out on your own, consider hiring some help. Otherwise, you can easily get frustrated.Unfortunately, since it is your husband who is closest to you, he is the one who will bear the brunt of your frustration. You should therefore find a suitable way of venting your frustration without making your husband a victim.Take measures that will help you to be happy if you want to make your husband happy as well. Have some spare time to renew your energy. Be happy, even if you have to leave some responsibilities.The things that you say and do will have a great impact on your marriage. If you say or act wrongly, you will be pushing your husband away. Yet it is through your words and actions that you can also make your husband happy.
Saving your marriage is possible when you have the correct advice and follow it. Many couples will face some devastating issue or many issues that cause one of the spouses to fall out of love and believe that the marriage is over. But any of these issues can be corrected or fixed to allow the couple to return to a loving and productive marriage.Here are a few tips that can help you begin to save your marriage:1. Remember that your spouse is as much of a victim as you are. There are two parties in a marriage and both will suffer if the divorce is allowed to continue. It is in both parties interest to work out the problems and bring a resolution to the marriage.2. Listen to your spouse. Find out what their needs and wants are. Do they want you to change your personality, or maybe help out around the house a little bit more? These are good details that will give you some leverage in convincing your spouse that you want to work on saving the marriage.3. Control your emotions. Sometime your interactions may become emotional. It is best to learn to control your actions and feels to aid in the healing process.Saving your marriage can be an event that both you and your spouse remember throughout the remainder of your lives. Couples that work through their problems grow to appreciate each other at a higher level and learn to communicate with each other.
One of the reasons why couples decide to get married is because they want to spend more time together. As soon as the honeymoon is over, the demands of daily life hit you from every direction and it becomes very difficult to spend some time together. The demands could be work related and this makes it very difficult to have enough time for your family and spouse. The demands of life do not go away, they are continuous, waxing and waning and you can’t simply wish them away.One of the forces which may come between you and your spouse are children. If you want to protect your relationship you cannot afford to sit down and wait for the inevitable. One effective method of protecting your marriage is by attending the weekend marriage seminars.The most common sponsors of the marriage seminars are churches but they can also sponsored by various psychological groups. Marriage seminars sponsored by churches usually stress spirituality. Marriage seminars sponsored by psychological groups usually stress the use of mediation tools. All these weekend seminars have the same benefits its only that they apply different methodology to reach the same goal.When you go for the marriage seminars, all the distractions which usually come your way are removed. These distractions include; phones, bosses, children, and family and debt collectors.The marriage seminars also help you meet other married couples. Sometimes we tend to lose track of our friends because we are so wrapped up in our daily live. The attending couples in the seminars are allowed to meet other couples who are experiencing the same problems as they are. In order to heal and grow you need to share your problems with other couples so that you can share insights. When you hear what other couples have been able to overcome it becomes some source of inspiration.Whether the marriage seminar is spiritual or meditative the couples are reminded the important aspect of taking some time to breath. This helps stimulate and bring your marriage back to life. There are various classes offered during these seminars such as; trust building activities, individual counseling, group counseling and various activities with other married couples.The marriage seminars will provide you with a free look at your marriage and relationship which is very important. The main reason why many marriages break is because of lack of communication. The whole idea of the marriage seminars is to try and open up communication within the marriage.
Do you know that it is possible to finally eliminate the fear, anxiety and stress that currently envelopes you and your spouse and replace it with feelings of love, joy and contentment, thus effectively saving your marriage from dissolving. You do not have to imagine it, because, with the tips that you will find in this write up and some useful resources that I will suggest to you, your path would solidly change from marital frustration into marital bliss. Whatever the situation in your marriage may be, I will urge you not to contemplate divorce because it can never be a solution to your marriage problems. What you should occupy yourself with is ways that you can utilize to save your marriage. Before I go ahead to give the tips that will help you to save your marriage, let met say explicitly that no matter how far gone your marriage is, there is always a way to resolve the problems. People have resolved worse cases; therefore yours should not be different.Some Useful tips that will help you to save your marriage:1. The first tip in trying to resolve any relationship problem despite the problem category is to accept that a problem exists and also adopt a positive attitude towards the resolution of that problem. Do not forget that, only when you acknowledge the existence of a problem can you effectively seek and apply strategies to resolve it. Try as much as possible to identify each problem singularly so as to choose the most effective means of addressing it. Believe you me, the methods that you will apply to effectively solve an infidelity problem may not effectively address a drinking problem neither would it efficiently tackle a lying problem. Coupled to the identification of this problems, you should be positive towards it resolution. With the adoption of this positive attitude, the next step it to seek help either offline or online (there are many effective e-books online on the subject of saving your marriage and bringing back a lost love, in addition to it’s effectiveness it is also far more cheaper to afford).2. More marriages die from neglect than anything else. Often, it is simply a matter of life getting in the way. Strangely, something as important as marriage gets ignored. More than that, many relationships shift from suffering with neglect to a growing animosity and antipathy. The innocent beginning of a crisis (neglect, lack of understanding, etc.) can quickly spin into a crisis that puts the entire marriage at risk. You have to do your best in trying to resolve any small issue that comes up instead of allowing it pile up and ultimately resulting to severe marital problems. What if you are the only party interested in solving the problems i.e. your spouse may be indifferent to any solution that would ease the marital tension, what can you do? Well, first off try your best to work on yourself and eliminate those faults attributable to you that may cause a marriage problem before you can start implementing methods that would effect changes on your spouse’s faults. From the beginning, you and your spouse should concern yourselves with ways in which you can utilize to sustain your marriage as much as you concern yourselves in ways you use to maintain and sustain your finances.3. The third tip is to muster the ability to accommodate your spouse’s minor shortcomings. Rather than be critical about every little issue, you should endeavor to make your spouse understand what negative effect that little issue has on you. If it is a habit that he/she has, try to talk about it and find ways to get around the habit. As it is popularly said “old habits die hard”, you can never get your spouse to drop the old habit by constantly yelling and nagging. The truth is more often than not that your spouse may have realized that the habit is not proper but is finding it difficult to drop. Being your spouse, it is your duty to assist him/her to gently drop that habit which on the long run would benefit both of you immensely.There are many more general tips that I can share with you and even a lot more problem specific solution methods that I can share or suggest to you but the nature of this write up would not permit me to continue beyond this point. Take this as a parting note, yes you can save your marriage and even make it better than it had ever been.
Boredom and routine are the bane of any relationship. If you’ve been married for any length of time, you have probably slipped into a comfortable routine. Unfortunately, comfortable can also mean predictable, unexciting, or just boring.Now I’m not suggesting your life needs to be a three-ring circus. But you do have to put in some effort to keep you marriage both interesting and fun.Here are four easy things you can do to help bring back the spark that may have faded.1. Start dating again.It’s easy to forget to “date” your partner once the honeymoon is over. Remember back to the days when you actually tried to impress your spouse and bring some of that back again. Let’s face it; you can’t bring back the excitement of getting to know each other again. You already know their stories, you already know their opinions, and you even know their favorite flavor of ice cream.What I’m talking about is attitude. Take you spouse (aka the most important person in you life) out with the specific intent of showing them a good time. And I don’t mean “Hey, what do you feel like doing tonight?”.2. Stop arguing and start listening.It’s human nature to defend ourselves when we feel attacked. Unfortunately this can be the “kiss-of-death” to a marriage. Conflicts cannot be resolved when both of you refuse to listen. You’re here so I elect you to be the one to make the first change.The next time you find yourself in an argument, stop and listen to what your partner is trying to say. Accept the fact that they are probably putting it wrong and try to understand the core of what they are saying.Asking good questions is essential. When you spouse says something like “You never listen to me” it’s easy to get angry. Most of us would automatically argue that we do listen. Instead try to remain calm (I know it’s difficult) and ask something such as “Can you give me a specific example of when I didn’t listen to you?”3. Meet Your Spouses NeedsIt’s important do note that “meeting your spouses needs” is not the same as “meeting what you think their need are” or “meeting the needs they used to have”. In a perfect world your spouse would tell you exactly what they need from you. Since we don’t live in a perfect world it won’t be quite that easy. If you’ve started listening instead of arguing, you are on the right track to finding out what your partner really needs from you.4. Start Touching AgainMany couples fall out of the habit of touching each other throughout the day. Hugging, kissing, and holding hands are automatic when the relationship is new. These small displays of affection can have a powerful effect over time. Touch is very important to pair bonding and strengthens the connection with your spouse.Maintaining your marriage relationship isn’t rocket science. None of what you have just read should come as a big surprise or revelation. Sometimes we need to be reminded about things we already know. Enjoy the pleasures of a committed relationship but watch out for the dangers. It’s a bit of a juggling act. The trick is to be comfortable in you’re marriage becoming too comfortable.So, go ahead and put a little spice back into your marriage. It should be easy and fun. It’s really just a matter of remembering and replaying those wonderful days when your relationship was new. Only this time, your “date” is already your best friend.